Giving doesn’t mean you get – reciprocity, it’s not just difficult to spell

I don’t think anyone should have to do anything in bed that doesn’t turn them on, there’s nothing less sexy for me than thinking my partner doesn’t want to be doing something, instant turn off. I would never ask anyone to do something I thought they hated. I don’t want to coax anyone into it and I certainly don’t want to force you. If you don’t want to eat my pussy then I certainly don’t want you to. I love my cunt and I don’t call it my holiest of holies for no reason, so I don’t want anyone going down there unless they definitely want to. In fact I would think it’s the 80/20 rule here, they better be 80% doing it for themselves, that is, because getting me off turns them on. That’s certainly why I give head, not entirely because he likes it but because it turns me on. I love having a cock in my mouth, I don’t have to be asked, you don’t have to do it to me first, I’m straight down there. Because I know it turns me on. I don’t have to pretend that it’s something else, I’m not grinning and bearing it (tip: if this is the case, then maybe you shouldn’t be doing it, or being made to feel like you should?)
And I want anyone going down on me to feel the same, or don’t do it. And if you don’t feel the same, that’s ok. I won’t beg for it. It’s pointless, neither of us will enjoy it. There’s loads of other things that can be enjoyed, why focus on something that isn’t going to be pleasurable for both of us. It’s wasted energy.
I can’t talk anyone into giving head, and I don’t want to but I will explain exactly why I love doing it – I know when I read someone else’s description of something I thought I didn’t like, well, it changed my perspective and it made me reconsider.
I know traditional thinking holds that the person giving the head is the supplicant and is in submission. I don’t see it that way; I see it as me being wholly and totally in control and he is absolutely at my mercy. I have his pleasure in my power, I can stop at any minute and I control the levels of excitement, taking it up or down as I see fit. I go into detail on another post about how I like to do it, where I ensure I go at my pace and there’s no doubt who’s in control. It’s such a turn on to watch him react to what I do and such a turn on to wield that power. Have a think about it.

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