Why Don’t I Give Blow Jobs?

I love a cock in my mouth so why don’t I give blow jobs?

Good question, but a trick one – I do give blow jobs but this only depends on how you look at it. Or so it seems.

I read an article this week on The Dublin Inquirer page, where it was suggested that it’s only a blow job if the guy finishes. (hang on to your raised eyebrows for a sec) Or rather someone was lamenting that their partner had claimed this. This was breaking news for me. It had never crossed my mind that someone might have been considering me stingy with the blow jobs because they weren’t regularly getting to finish in my mouth? Regardless of how many times I was happy to have it in there.

Had I Been Looking at This all Wrong?

While I was somewhat surprised that someone would take this stance it did seem a little ungrateful to me. But was there any merit in it? Would I think the same with regards to getting eaten? There are few things I love more than having a cock in my mouth, it’s the first thing I want to do. And if you have any skill with dominance if you’re able to deny me this for even a few seconds it will heighten my pleasure. So needless to say it is something that is incorporated into sex, pretty much every single time I have it. I would consider blow jobs to be central to having sex and to my enjoyment of that sex. But what of my partner? Is he seeing my eagerness to get his dick in my mouth as me giving him loads of blow jobs? Or is he just thinking that I’m not giving him many?

 

How Often Does It Finish in My Mouth?

So I started looking back at when I might have been giving ‘just a blow job’ – and how many times was it that, and only that. It was hard to tell for two reasons.  1. Blow jobs often lead to sex (shocking). And 2. If I suck him until he comes, that can sometimes be the end of the action for a while (just as shocking).

And pausing the action (until he recovers) might not be what either of us wants. So unless I am very determined to make my partner lie back and enjoy it, or he has specifically asked for a blow job – giving head until completion can sometimes get lost in all the other great things that we can be doing. And one of them can be that we’re just eager to give as much pleasure as we receive.

 

 

So what are we saying here?

Giving head can be very one sided, it’s why some people don’t like it. But if you do, then it can be something so gloriously indulgent, just to lie back and receive. But still, I think we can agree that one person is getting the majority of the pleasure. As much as I get turned on when I give head, it’s also a tease. It gets me worked up and sometimes I am so aroused by the result I am disappointed that I can’t be fucked right then. (that is a very tiny detail) So I’m aroused but I haven’t gotten off.  But in contrast, as soon as a guy makes me come with his mouth, he can fuck me straight away. Which is usually what happens.

Now, how would I feel if a guy was going down on me all the time (as I do with guys) but it was so infrequently leading to orgasm? Would I feel like I was getting head? Satisfactorily?

 

Without a Climax Would I Feel Like I Wasn’t Getting Any?

I had a good think about this and the answer is no. Mostly when I’m having sex I’d finish him with my mouth if he wanted to. But it’s a choice and if he chooses to move to sex, when staying with the blow job is an option I’ve offered, then that’s what happens. I mean of course sometimes it’s not an option I will want sex and will say so. The point is, that it’s up to a person to ask for what they want. To let their partner know what they like and when. You can’t claim you never get something if you don’t ask for it. Or more specifically in this case, you can’t say you don’t ever get it when in fact you do!

If someone was going down on me every time we had sex, then there’s no legitimacy to the claim that I wasn’t getting head. If it never manifested itself in the culmination of an orgasm? While disappointing it would then be up to me to ask for that. It’s up to me to say, please make me come, please don’t stop. But ultimately the onus is on me to communicate that. And really, as long as he’s getting me off one way or the other, I mostly don’t really care how I finish.

So to anyone at all, who wants to claim that it only counts if you finish? I refute that as a totally ridiculous stance and in conclusion I give LOADS of head. And I can now cross that off my list of things to retrospectively worry about this week.

 

Abbi x

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